It intrigues me that, while I am carrying on with my daily life, there are billions of others doing the same thing, even though I have no idea who they are or what their lives are like.
Last Tuesday, my family focused not on international affairs, but on the celebration of my sister’s impressive achievement – gaining an MA in Producing Film and Television at Bournemouth Unviersity.
What does it mean to be human? What does it mean for you to be human?
Can there be a single answer? While you are thinking about it, why not watch this short video, which highlights the perspective of a number of people around the world. They are all like you and me; none of them are like you or me. We are all different and we are all the same. 🙂
Welcome to the start of another week. What kind of plans do you have in store? Are you able to embrace the thought of dealing with whatever comes your way? Raring to go, full of joy for being alive and in the moment?
Or are you anxious about the days ahead? Stressed? Fearful?
The spiritual teacher Byron Katie says “You can argue with the way things are. You’ll lose but only 100% of the time”.
It can be hard to accept what is in front of us with equanimity and a peaceful mind. It is a simple concept, but not an easy one. Yet we can get there in a split second. We control our thoughts, not the other way round. We can decide what to think about any event or situation. We can choose acceptance over resistance.
To use a relatively trivial-sounding example, I have a residual fear of engaging with e-mails, as a result of a devastating experience at work a few years ago. These days, I lead a blessed and happy life. But when it comes to thinking about my in-box, I am consumed with anxiety about what might lurk there. So I put off opening my mailbox for as long as possible.
Eventually, given the way the world works these days, I have to draw on those famous words by Susan Jeffers and ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Having taken a deep breath and opened my messages, what do I find? A long list, not of horrors after all, but of stress-free items which I can handle perfectly well. Once I can see the true content of my in-box, only then do I recognise that it is the muscle-memory of past times which has been controlling my thoughts and therefore my emotions, not the logic behind what is most likely to exist when I switch on the computer.
I am using the practice of acceptance to help me overcome this fear. By taking a moment to recognise my present reality, and by relaxing into it, as Pema Chödrön puts it, I can engage with this aspect of my life with a calm, still presence, regardless of what shows up.
I hope this approach might also be useful for you, if and when you find yourself dealing with difficult or unexpected events.
There is no path to peace. Peace is the path.
~ Mahatma Gandhi
I was fascinated to read this article by artist Kees van Aalst when my Mum shared it recently on Facebook.
Van Aalst’s premise is that we are all amateurs, and remain so throughout our life. We can and should learn from others. But in the end, finding our own way, our own inspiration and our own selves are the keys to life-long happiness. Getting things ‘right’ has no place in the attainment of success.
“It starts by forgetting about perfect. We don’t have time for perfect. In any event, perfection is unachievable.”
~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic