“The Inevitable Nature of our Ridiculousness”

 

Spot the difference – two sides of me in Paris!

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
~ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

I have been a bit poorly over the last couple of weeks.  Nothing remotely serious – a cold and a cough.  But don’t you find that when you have ‘only a cold’, you feel utterly rubbish?

Feeling under the weather can make us vulnerable to mind-tricks.  Negative messages seem like well-worn truths:  You’ll never amount to much; Who do you think you are, writing a blog for other people to read?

And so, even as I got better, I found it incredibly difficult to get back to the things I really like doing, such as writing Leaping Life posts.  Who’d want to read such rubbish anyway?

Happily, here I am, despite all these misgivings.  I managed to observe my negative self-talk and thus see it for what it really is – simply my ‘monkey mind’ playing the inner critic, with stories rather than facts, which I can choose to ignore.

“Thoughts are just thoughts, you do not need to believe them or react to them.”

~ Frances Coleman-Williams writing about Mindfulness

A quick google search throws up plenty of tips on how to silence one’s inner critic.  One of my favourites is not to take oneself too seriously.  To lighten up and go for it, whatever ‘it’ may be.  I don’t often manage to live like this – too often am I unable to loosen up.  But I am working on it, which is, of course, all we can ask of ourselves.

Check out the following short video about self-confidence highlighting beautifully the value of ‘taking ourselves lightly’.  Its premise is that we can’t be any more foolish than we already are, so why not just embrace this state of affairs and live life in whatever way we choose.

‘Failure is the acceptable norm’, we hear.  So let’s stop worrying about what we might do ‘wrong’ and go do it anyway! 🙂

 

 

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17 thoughts on ““The Inevitable Nature of our Ridiculousness”

  1. I hear you, Liz 🙂 My blog routine has been disrupted too (though for nice reasons) and I am aware of the little voice in my head… suggesting it’s really not worth bothering etc etc.

    Your posts are most certainly worthwhile. Inspiring, uplifting and with a lightness of touch that means I look forward to opening the email whenever I see that you’ve posted.

    You have been missed 🙂

    I hope you’re on the tail-end of that cold now and can enjoy the Easter weekend 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for this Sandra – I really appreciate your generous and supportive words. Wishing you a lovely Easter break too 😀

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  2. I couldn’t agree more with accepting ridiculousness. Hence my attempt at a live video on Facebook. After all I couldn’t be more of a muppet than I already am, and I am certainly less of a nitwit than others who star on media, like a certain American president. Having said that, I do get slightly mortified sometimes when I google my blog and realise just how much of myself I have put out for the world to see! (should they care to). As for your blog, it’s always so pleasing to the eye, indeed to all the senses, that I feel there’s something missing in my days if I don’t get to check what you have been blogging. Wishing you a Happy Easter full of ridiculousness.

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    1. Your forays on Facebook are inspirational! I love how willing you are to try new things, regardless of the outcome. This epitomises the spirit of ‘hang the consequences’ – the perfect way to live life! And thank you for your kind and supportive words about my blog, which are very much appreciated 😀

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      1. I am not very willing to try out my knitting skills though. 😀

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      2. Oh go on – what have you got to loose?!? 🙂

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      3. Several stitches and a couple of rows probably. 😀

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      4. Lol! You will enjoy my next post, which is about a mistake I recently made in some knitting, which might not be a mistake, depending on how you look at it….! 🙂

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      5. I am already smiling in anticipation.

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  3. This is some great advice. Glad you were able to get past that inner critic and write this post! It’s so funny that everyone we know is just as scared of failing (and does it just as much as we do), yet we all try our best to avoid it. In a way, failing is the one thing all of us have in common.

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    1. You are so right. It is all too often that we think we are the only ones to have the problems we face, when in reality, they are commonly experienced. My hope is that more people will gradually come to realise this, as we start to be braver about sharing our stories. The opportunity to do so is one of the major benefits of blogging. 🙂

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  4. I hope you are feeling much better, Liz. I had also wondered where you were and hoped all was well. I also suffer from the naggy voice in my head – what a beast it is! Blogging has helped me gain a little confidence and I feel I chose well when I decided that WordPress would serve my needs better than any of the other sites. I always look forward to reading your posts – there is always something of real interest in them.

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    1. Thank you Clare – and yes, feeling much better now, I am happy to say. Completely agree with you about the accessibility and suitability of WordPress for blogging – it makes things so easy, doesn’t it. 🙂

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  5. Hilarious and love your self talk reframe. It is interesting to examine the worst thing you call yourself and who first might have said that to you. With me it is “how stupid” and it was my brother. It helps to get rid of the negative voice in your head when you identify who may have put it there, because you say to yourself, “I don’t want that person’s voice in my head. I want only mine!”

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    1. That’s a great strategy – will definitely try it! Cheers Cindy x

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